Thoughts of dJ

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to agree with everyone around you, even when something doesn’t feel quite right? Humans are social creatures by nature. We seek belonging, validation, and comfort in being part of a group. But this desire to fit in often comes with a hidden cost, the loss of independent thinking. As the saying goes, “If you want to be wrong, follow the masses.” Understanding Groupthink and Mob Mentality When large groups of people start to share the same opinions, something interesting happens,  individual reasoning begins to fade . This phenomenon is called groupthink or mob mentality . Instead of questioning ideas, people start to accept them because “everyone else believes it.” The loudest voice becomes the truth, even if it’s far from it. History is full of such moments, where societies, nations, and even intelligent individuals followed the crowd into disastrous outcomes. From financial bubbles to political movements, the pattern repeats: when the crowd m...

You know that feeling when someone asks you something and your mind goes completely blank? That panic where you want to say something , even if you're just making it up? Yeah. Me too... But I've been learning something: it's okay not to know. Actually, it might be one of the best things you can do for yourself. We're All Pretending Sometimes Let's be real. We all nodded along when we had no idea what people were talking about. We've all felt embarrassed when everyone's discussing some movie or news and we're totally lost. It's tiring, right? Always trying to keep up. Always needing an opinion about everything. But here's the thing: nobody knows everything. We're all just figuring life out. When Did "I Don't Know" Become Scary? Kids ask questions all day long. "Why is the sky blue?" "Where do stars go?" "What happens when we die?" But somewhere along the way, we learned that not knowing things was ba...

Note: These are my observations from a tier 2 city in India. If you're in a tier 1 city, you might not relate to everything here. But if you're a man reading this, I bet some of it will feel familiar. And if you're a woman, you'll know exactly what it's like to live in a man's world. The Impossible Standards Many men in India want women to be everything and nothing at the same time. They want her to be smart but not threatening, confident but not proud, caring but not emotional, strong but not scary. She should dress nice but not too formal (that's trying too hard), be friendly but not too friendly (that's wrong), speak up but not too much (that's bossy). When Kavya comes to Monday meetings, she's walking into a trap. If she's quiet, they think she has no ideas. If she talks a lot, they think she's pushy. If she smiles, they think she's not serious. If she doesn't smile, they think she's cold. The men don't even know they...

  No one tells you how hard it is to rewire your brain after experiencing trauma, loss, or prolonged emotional pain. Most people around you will cheer for your victories, but few recognize the courage it takes to simply heal . Not many understand that allowing yourself to experience joy again, real, soul-deep joy can feel like a betrayal of the pain you’ve carried. But here’s the truth: healing isn’t betrayal, it’s bravery. If you’re reading this and silently suffering, you’re not alone. You may have mastered the art of smiling while aching inside. You may be the one others rely on, while privately drowning in self-doubt or suppressed grief. Emotional wounds don’t always scream; they often whisper in quiet self-sabotage or in the walls we build to protect ourselves. Rewiring your brain after trauma is like learning to walk again blindfolded, barefoot, and uphill. It’s not linear. One moment you feel strong, the next you're back in the dark. And yet, every time you choose to try aga...