Dichotomy of Control

 From my very own experience, the line which is more relatable to my past is;

“We suffer more from our imaginations”. 

Many a time I felt like an Anhedoniac. 

Thanks to Breaking Bad & friends who helped me to get out of that state.

I started thinking straight right then and then I fixed one thing in my mind: my everyday task in life should be separating things into “what I control and what I don't” & started following Stoicism. 

In life, we tend to focus on many things and thereby set us up for a lot of unnecessary trouble: getting upset, worried, stressed, experiencing negative and excessive emotions totally being hindered. 

Sometimes we focus a lot on other people's opinions.

This is a common trouble faced by many known and unknown faces in our world.

In order to overcome this state, The dichotomy of control is a handy and straightforward core concept that can empower you to live happily.

This concept helps us in controlling our anger in a difficult situations.

What if, Will smith had control of his anger at the oscar event without reacting to the lame joke.

If you are not aware of what happened to him after the incident, look at this ⬇

Pic courtesy: Twitter

“When we lose control,

we get angry.

When we get angry,

we lose control.

Anger is a response.

Our response becomes our experience.

We control our experience,

by how we choose to respond.” - Unknown

I know sometimes it's hard to accept it, but do your best if you want to be in control of your life, and don't allow other people to hold you back from acting on your dreams.

It worked for me:)

Does Silence Really Help Control Anger?

In my case, my anger increases if the other one is not silent after the argument. I always wanted to stay away from the person and go on a walk for some time.

I often tend to be silent in order to avoid difficult or bad situations. For me, Silence is the better solution rather than hurting someone by losing control.

You need to avoid worrying about what the person might think of you because it doesn't matter, and more importantly, their opinions are outside your control, which puts more burn on you if you worry about them.

Anger is Temporary Madness

There’s no emotion we ought to think harder and more clearly about than anger. 

Anger greets most of us every day – in our personal relationships, in the workplace, and even during vacations. “Anger is both poisonous and popular.”

Sometimes we can see people so often cling to it, seeing it as a strong emotion, connected to self-respect and manliness.

We can also see the person angry when he/she is failed in a relationship several times.

The angry person wants some type of payback, when he/she is ditched in a relationship or when they are treated irrespectfully or unequally. 

Always remember "If you carry bricks from your past experience in a relationship to a new day with your special one, you will build the same house." 

It is always surprising to me “We all love ourselves more than other people but care more about their opinion than our own.”

If any men/women is angry, let them be remembered that he/she is angry because of themselves alone.

The struggle against anger often requires lonely self-examination.

In all the cases, adopting to control our emotions is the only way known to be leading a peaceful life. 

The Dichotomy of Control, It’s not just the best way, It's the only way.

I might be missing something. Curious to know your thoughts on this :)

- dJ 😎