The Journey is not so Hard

 Okay, I know it's old-fashioned to write about Relationships. So what,  I love to write about it.

You will definitely imagine or relate this blog with your partner or an Individual or group of people.

Let me first remind you one thing.

“Healthy relationships are created and not founded”

Empathy, Respect, Communication, Appreciation, Trust, Transparency, Efforts, Actions, Gratitude, Understanding, Learning, Giving space, Occasional gifts are some of the key factors which will help in creating a healthy relationship with your preferred ones.

Relationships are not meant to be maintained and measured with an Individual only. It can be with friends, children's & family, co-worker’s, business partners, customers, employees, street vendors, barbers, maids etc…

Since it is very common between two individuals who are always likely to maintain a long term relationship and make memories together it is highly spoken about and discussed and measured. I am putting my thoughts on it.

People struggle to maintain long term relationships and often tend to break it in the short term or live without proper understanding by adjusting. There are several factors which an Individual missed to create a healthy relationship. 

A good sign in a relationship is that you will not be searching in google for how to maintain a good relationship? You live life as it is.

Understanding each other’s history is key but It is absolutely ok to not be okay.

Someone who gives you attention is not necessarily someone who wants to give you a long term commitment to the way you’ve projected your expectations to be. Eventually all things fall into place. Until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moments, and know everything happens for a reason.

Set boundaries for yourself. Know your limits and be unselfish if you prefer to have a long term relationship.

It is also absolutely okay to take a break in a relationship when you feel it is not going in the right direction.

Taking a break is different from a breakup. Taking a break is often seen as a prelude to a breakup, but it is not so.

When do you need to take a break?

Take a break when you need space in the relationship, when you feel you are no longer yourself in the relationship. Or when there's too much going on in your life and your partner's presence is making it worse. When you've fought so much that continuing doesn't seem an option but you also can't see yourself breaking up, then taking a break is a good idea. 

Taking a break is accepting that there's something wrong in your relationship and that you are ready to work it out. Sometimes, only talking it out doesn't work; you need to be away from each other to figure it out.

To be optimistic in all situations wont work in relationships. You have to go down and come up to understand each other better. Because to be more positive in all situations sometimes can be toxic. In the same way, if you do not want to have an argument or be calm in all situations for holding the relationship it won’t work.

At the end of the day, it's all about trying to save your relationship. No one wants to lose someone they love, but people change and so do their relationships. Sometimes, you have to do whatever you can.

Before getting into a personal relationship you can ensure

# How does it feel to you?

# How does it influence you?

# Who will you be in a few years if you stay in that relationship?

You can’t transcend the reality of who you are and what you know about yourself at any given moment. You are the best version of yourself at any given moment so technically you can always meet just the right person regardless of where you’re at. Because there’s a direct correspondence between the needs and the intentions we project on our partners.

“The one” is someone who will love micro-moments just as much as they love the big gestures of showing love and attention. It comes from a place of secure attachment instead of needing you to prove yourself all the time for your worth of being there with each other.

“The one” will grow with you and allow you to contribute to his growth while not hindering your own development on your own path. It is all about understanding and compassion.

Should I stay or go?

If you can't communicate to one another or the person becomes reluctant to introduce you to their family/friends or if you feel you are playing a role when you spend time with them and you often have a gut feeling that something is not right, you can move on and be happy at least to yourself. Since It is better to be alone, than with someone who makes you feel alone. Move on and be happy. 

And sometimes you may have fallen due to infatuation later on and wonder how can I be in a relationship with that person? Or thinking like you are wasting your time, It is better to move on initially rather than worrying later. Shit happens, that’s life !

- dJ